I love a new year. It’s a nice restart. Although I don’t set New Years resolutions, I do like to take time to reflect on the year past and greet the one coming with a vision of what I’d like for it to hold.
I am so grateful for you, 2014. You were filled with so much beautiful change. So far, you are the year during which I learned the most about myself and pushed myself far out of my comfort zone over and over again. And through this, I have grown.
What are you thankful for from 2104? Showing gratitude is such a beautiful way of setting yourself up to get more of what you want. When you are grateful for something or someone—when you notice the abundance of life—you are more likely to spend time cultivating that. Take a moment to pause and send love to 2014. Thank it for whatever it taught you, even if those lessons were learned through heartache or loss.
Now it’s time to look forward to this New Year, the fresh start. My personal vision for 2015 includes an abundant, loving relationship. Does yours?
You can find love this year and it all starts with opening yourself up to the possibility of it. Finding love can be fun and today I’ll share with you some of my plans for opening myself up for love this year.
Here are some of my secrets for inviting in the love I want (and deserve):
1. Check In With My Truth
Earlier this month, I had an article posted on Mind Body Green. It was about how my own singlehood served as a way to keep me safe.
In 2015, I promise to myself that I will continue to check in with my truth, even when it’s an unpleasant truth.
Knowing the beliefs we are approaching love from can transform our experience. It’s important to know our own truth. Ignorance, in this case, is not bliss. Instead, it will keep us stuck in our familiar patterns.
If you are not living the life you want, most likely you don’t want to continue that pattern. Knowing where it stems from is step number one in finding the love we want.
2. Keep the Focus On Myself
I don’t mean this in a selfish way. I mean this in the sense of using my experiences with others to learn more about myself. Through understanding that everyone I date offers me an opportunity for me to learn more about myself, dating becomes an adventure rather than a chore. When experiencing dating from this space—where I know that no one can add to my worth and that the people who are coming in are here to teach mea something—I take my power back.
Dating this way is fun! There’s no neediness or desperation. And I can show up authentically me and know that the right people will stick around and the ones who aren’t right will fall away…and that’s okay!
3. Believe I Can Have It And Hold the Vision
I meditate every morning. In my meditations, I envision the love relationship I want. Not the checklist of qualities I want in a mate, but the feeling of being with that person.
I connect to that feeling—where I’m feeling supported in my ideal relationship—and that feeling helps me stay grounded in my own sense of self.
By holding this vision, I already have what I need. As I mentioned in secret #2, it becomes easier to date loosely when we know that no one can add to us; we are already complete. Therefore, we can allow someone to show up as his or her authentic self, without judging too critically and without focusing too much on our checklist. This opens us up to receiving great love (in packages we might not have been open to before) and takes the pressure off of the other person to fit a preconceived mold.
I am so looking forward to the greatness of 2015! I am ready for all it has to teach me. Are you?
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